Arguing is a part of any relationship. Conflict helps you relationship grow. Even the strongest relationships can go through some tough times. Some relationships, if not carefully handled, can easily fall into pitfalls.
You become an enemy in the eyes of your significant Other if there is a fight between the two fo you. What kind of enemy do you think you are?
Are you a good or bad enemy?
Do you escape and avoid arguments in your relationship?
If you are too proud or stubborn to admit things are not working right, that makes you a bad enemy.
A good enemy on the other hand, does not avoid any arguments. A good enemy listens and makes an effort to solve the conflict. If you have a strength of character and enough patience, you would be able to handle situations easily.
There is a hidden content of the whole idea of arguing- your partner is crying out because there is a need for contact.
Signs of being a good enemy to your partner:
You always think about your partner’s feelings, if they feel good about themselves each day. – Be able to say an apology and break communication barriers – Praising your partner whenever they contributed something that helps your relationship – You acknowledge the problems in your relationship and helping you partner understand why it is important to discuss the problems. – You recognize and accept your shortcomings and think of ways for you to become a better partner – You treat your partner with respect and dignity at all times
Your day gets even worse if you do not only deal with the stresses of daily living but also a difficult partner. If you are able to deal with your problems, it shows that you have a skill in fair fighting.
The skills of a good enemy:
- Be able to accept the things that your partner find difficult in your relationship
- Deal with the problems in an calm and self-empowered manner
- Even if your partner can be difficult, you are able to focus the positive energy that enhances the relationship
- Be able to control your emotions, know when to stop and to say enough, and be able to make solid decisions
- Willingness Negotiate a win-win soluton with your partner
You should always work through problems and settle it in a cooperative way. After all, you and your partner thrive in a mutual understanding and peaceful atmosphere. Your goal must be clear, that fighting is not to make you a bad enemy, but rather the opposite.
Is your relationship beyond repair?
It may not be as bad as you think…as long as you still care.By applying the ideas we offer in the ebook, you will become a Positive Conflict agent, what I call being a “Good Enemy”!
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Neil Warner
Positive Conflicts
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